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You are not shadow banned. Your content is not bei You are not shadow banned. Your content is not being hidden. Most of the time, it simply is not resonating with your audience anymore, especially if you are using the app correctly, which I will explain at the end.

People blame “shadow banning” when they see a drop in engagement, but when I look at their metrics, I can usually see small declines long before they noticed them. Social media platforms have millions of users. They are not punishing you because you took a week off.

What actually happens is this. Your audience stopped engaging with your content, and when you took a break, they filled that space with other creators. When you returned, the algorithm showed them the accounts they interacted with most, which was not you. They were not looking for your content because it was not relevant to them anymore. I see this over and over.

There is one real caveat. How you are using the app. If you upload unlicensed music, follow and unfollow in large numbers, run giveaways that break platform rules or respond to comments in negative ways, you can hurt your reach. That is not a shadow ban. That is violating the service agreement.

A case study. Someone told me they was shadow banned. When I looked at their account, a few things stood out.

1. There was no aspirational layer to the content. It was a business that relied on people physically coming in, yet nothing showcased a luxury experience, or a story people could connect with. Photos were blurry, captions were minimal and there was no searchable language to help people discover her business.

2. There was no engagement back to the audience. Not responding to comments is one of the fastest ways to lose your community. People want acknowledgment. If they do not get it from you, they will give their attention to someone else.

3. They were not using the app like a real user.  Instagram and TikTok know you are a business, but they still reward accounts that behave like humans.  Comment, watch stories and sending DMs. That signals genuine activity and community building.

Most of the time the issue is not a shadow ban. It is content, connection and consistency. And the good news is all of that can be improved.
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Fashion · March 17, 2018

Thirty-Nine

Well I am officially 39 which means in less than a year I will be 40

Last year for my birthday I did my first real photo shoot for my old blog.  It was so much fun that I wanted to do something new and exciting this year.  Just wait until you see what I have planned for my 40th…

Au Darling was the perfect location for this cool, sixties vibe photo shoot.  Kylen also picked and styled all of my looks which was fun for me to have someone else in charge.  Also, Melissa Breedlove is a freaking genius with staging these pictures and the different places around the store.

It’s been a big year for me.  This was my fourth year as a stay at home mom, my second year writing for Northshore Parent, I launched my own blog this year, built my Instagram following to more than 3k and started a newsletter collaboration with Adult(ish).  Also, this year I enrolled my first child in Kindergarten, continued to breastfeed Porter, became a room mom and am chairing an event for the Junior League.  Justin and I have also been being more intentional about our time together and have established a more regular date night scheduled.

As for this year.  I will register my second child for kindergarten and have two, YES TWO, kids in full time school.  Porter will be attending a little MDO program once a week as he and I need a little more distance so I can get more work done and he can learn to have a little more independence.  Justin and I will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary and I am going on my first girls trip since Peyton was born.

I really wanted to something to chronicle my journey into age 40.  I came up with a list of 40 things I want to do this year.  Some are BIG and some are small but they all mean something to me.  I wanted to share the list with all of you as I will be trying to write about it monthly for the blog as I accomplish these things…

  1. Get 10K on Instagram
  2. Lose 30 pounds of fat and put on 10 pounds of muscle
  3. Really define my shoulders and back
  4. Finish setting up my office
  5. Go Blonde
  6. Monthly time with friends: Lunch / Dinner / Drinks / Coffee
  7. Swim half a mile
  8. Squat 100 pounds
  9. One unassisted pull-up
  10.  Donate to a friend
  11. Make someone smile
  12. Leave a big tip
  13. Try 5 new restaurants
  14. Invest quality time into my kids talents
  15. Coach a soccer game
  16. Give away something special
  17. Write a handwritten card
  18. Wean Pops
  19. Have everyone in their own beds
  20. Night away with Justin
  21. You Tube Channel
  22. A new tattoo
  23. Spend more time at the Lakefront
  24. Porch Cocktails
  25. Prima Donnas
  26. See a play with my Mom
  27. Keep a journal about accomplishing all of these tasks
  28. Write my book
  29. Renew my license
  30. Take better care of my skin
  31. Make a good habit
  32. Register for a blogger conference
  33. Boudoir Pictures
  34. Throw a Party
  35. Give each kid a YES! day
  36. Make one vulnerable and transparent post a month on the blog.
  37. Spend 5 minutes a day focusing on something Justin wants to talk about
  38. Call my grandparents more
  39. Help a friend work on a dream
  40. ???? Bonus?????

All Dresses and Accessories provided by Au Darling.  Photography by Melissa Breedlove Photography.

So Cheers to an amazing year!  I can’t wait to celebrate all the amazing things that I know will unfold this year…

XO,

Tippy

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Merry Merry. Merry Merry.
Who is panic wrapping??? Who is panic wrapping???
If it’s going to be 80 degrees for Christmas I’m a If it’s going to be 80 degrees for Christmas I’m asking Santa for a spray tan gift card in my stocking.
As my boys have gotten older there is almost alway As my boys have gotten older there is almost always a friend eating dinner at my house or spending the night. The weekends are reserved for a driveway full of bikes and basketball. This year, in my haste to make my @shutterfly card I accidentally added a picture with one of my bonus kids in it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ #themorethemerrier
You are not shadow banned. Your content is not bei You are not shadow banned. Your content is not being hidden. Most of the time, it simply is not resonating with your audience anymore, especially if you are using the app correctly, which I will explain at the end.

People blame “shadow banning” when they see a drop in engagement, but when I look at their metrics, I can usually see small declines long before they noticed them. Social media platforms have millions of users. They are not punishing you because you took a week off.

What actually happens is this. Your audience stopped engaging with your content, and when you took a break, they filled that space with other creators. When you returned, the algorithm showed them the accounts they interacted with most, which was not you. They were not looking for your content because it was not relevant to them anymore. I see this over and over.

There is one real caveat. How you are using the app. If you upload unlicensed music, follow and unfollow in large numbers, run giveaways that break platform rules or respond to comments in negative ways, you can hurt your reach. That is not a shadow ban. That is violating the service agreement.

A case study. Someone told me they was shadow banned. When I looked at their account, a few things stood out.

1. There was no aspirational layer to the content. It was a business that relied on people physically coming in, yet nothing showcased a luxury experience, or a story people could connect with. Photos were blurry, captions were minimal and there was no searchable language to help people discover her business.

2. There was no engagement back to the audience. Not responding to comments is one of the fastest ways to lose your community. People want acknowledgment. If they do not get it from you, they will give their attention to someone else.

3. They were not using the app like a real user.  Instagram and TikTok know you are a business, but they still reward accounts that behave like humans.  Comment, watch stories and sending DMs. That signals genuine activity and community building.

Most of the time the issue is not a shadow ban. It is content, connection and consistency. And the good news is all of that can be improved.
Candy cane bow tutorial!! #chrismas #christmasbaki Candy cane bow tutorial!! #chrismas #christmasbaking #christmascake #christmastreat #holiday #holidaytreats #coquettechristmas #twee #coquetteholiday
Coffee with my favorite collaborator… Coffee with my favorite collaborator…
Shop local gift guide @shopstelladallas!! Shop local gift guide @shopstelladallas!!
Last Christmas, we took the Annual King Cookie Par Last Christmas, we took the Annual King Cookie Party in a whole new direction and it ended up being one of my favorite versions yet. I invited some of my closest friends to Kismet Cosmetics, decorated gingerbread houses, and made our own lip gloss and face glitter. It was such a fun way to reconnect with my friends during the busiest time of year. The full recap is on the blog now. Link in bio.
I have been creating online for almost a decade, a I have been creating online for almost a decade, and the landscape has shifted in major ways. These are the changes that matter right now.

1. People don’t want to be influenced. They want to be educated. Audiences want content that improves their life, solves a problem or teaches them something useful. Value builds trust and trust builds connection.
2. Organic engagement is no longer the only metric. Paid reach is a smart tool when you know your audience and use the right placements. Sometimes your best content needs a push to reach the right people.
3. Community requires evolution. As you grow, your audience grows. Their needs change. Listening to what they save, ask for and respond to is how you stay connected.
4. Personality is the new niche. People follow people. Your voice, humor and perspective are what separate you from everyone else in your category.
5. Consistency matters, but sustainability matters more. Batching, content silos and systems help you show up without burning out.
6. Social SEO is essential. People use Instagram, TikTok and Pinterest like search engines. Keyword dense captions, clear hooks and intentional hashtags help your content get discovered long after posting.
7. Community is more important than virality. Viral moments fade. A loyal audience stays, engages and converts.
8. Creators are becoming brands and brands are becoming creators. Storytelling, personality and real time content now matter more than being perfectly polished.
9. AI isn’t replacing creators. It supports them. It frees up time so you can focus on creativity, connection and strategy.
10. Transparency matters more than perfection. And transparency isn’t the same as authenticity. Transparency means not gatekeeping and letting people into the process so they feel empowered.
11. Growth isn’t just about new followers. It’s about nurturing the audience you already have. Engagement and trust will take you farther than any number at the top of your profile.

The creator space is evolving and so are we. Staying curious, adaptable and connected to your community is how you grow long term.

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