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People blame “shadow banning” when they see a drop in engagement, but when I look at their metrics, I can usually see small declines long before they noticed them. Social media platforms have millions of users. They are not punishing you because you took a week off.

What actually happens is this. Your audience stopped engaging with your content, and when you took a break, they filled that space with other creators. When you returned, the algorithm showed them the accounts they interacted with most, which was not you. They were not looking for your content because it was not relevant to them anymore. I see this over and over.

There is one real caveat. How you are using the app. If you upload unlicensed music, follow and unfollow in large numbers, run giveaways that break platform rules or respond to comments in negative ways, you can hurt your reach. That is not a shadow ban. That is violating the service agreement.

A case study. Someone told me they was shadow banned. When I looked at their account, a few things stood out.

1. There was no aspirational layer to the content. It was a business that relied on people physically coming in, yet nothing showcased a luxury experience, or a story people could connect with. Photos were blurry, captions were minimal and there was no searchable language to help people discover her business.

2. There was no engagement back to the audience. Not responding to comments is one of the fastest ways to lose your community. People want acknowledgment. If they do not get it from you, they will give their attention to someone else.

3. They were not using the app like a real user.  Instagram and TikTok know you are a business, but they still reward accounts that behave like humans.  Comment, watch stories and sending DMs. That signals genuine activity and community building.

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Fashion · April 30, 2018

Wedding Guests Done Royally

The much anticipated wedding between Prince Harry and Meghan Markel is happening in just a few weeks.  I will be watching like the majority of the world in awe.  There are so many things that the English do right and weddings would be one of them.  Weddings should be something of wonder and reverence as it is one of the biggest commitments a couple will make.  Everything from the planning to the execution to the dressing is done right in the UK.

I love weddings.  Something about getting dressed up and listening to a couple pledge their life to one another just give me all the feels.  I am really one of those people who looks forward to getting a wedding invite and puts a lot of thought into what I am going to wear and the perfect gift to give.

Weddings Make Me Happy…

 

 

So we all know the basics of being a good wedding guest but what are something that really can hurt a brides day?  I teamed up with Kerrie and Jamie from Girls In Black – Events Management for this post for a few of their top Don’ts for being the perfect wedding guest…

#1 Don’t be late.
If you think it’s going to take you 30 minutes to get to the ceremony, park your car, potty and find a seat then you should schedule to leave one hour before the start time. Call us “old fashion” but its just rude to be late! If unforeseen circumstances have you rushing in after the processional has started then please wait until after the bride has made her grand entrance!

#2 No peaking!
If you’re not in the bridal party you should wait to see the bride! I know that its tempting to stop by the bridal suite for a quick visit. One of the most anticipated moments of the most exciting day of your life is definitely, the brides entrance! The ushers standing guard as the trumpets roar and the doors opening to reveal a beautiful bride for the first time. Every bride should be able to experience this glamorous moment!

#3 Don’t complain.
Your dream wedding may not have included an hour long mass, a mid-day river boat ride, a walk down a wooded-rocky path (with wooden benches as seats) or a second line at midnight, but it’s not you dream…it’s hers!

So go with the flow and enjoy something different that you might not usually do. We are so blessed to live in one of the most amazing destination wedding cities in the country. Guest attend weddings every weekend experiencing all new wedding traditions, and in a city like NOLA how could you not love every second!!!

There are so many terms now for dressing for events.  It’s not just black tie, cocktail and casual anymore.  Not there is Classy Casual, Outdoor Chic, Beach Formal, Upscale Boho, Casual Cocktail…  What do all of these things mean?

It’s fun to embrace change and with changing styles and venue types for weddings means we will be pushed more outside of our comfort zone with what to wear.  But change is good and I am here to give you a dressing guide to decode all of these new terms.

I also wanted to include some of my favorite ladies that I thought would fit each of these themes…

{This post contains affiliate links.  All thoughts, choices and opinions are mine.}

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Most importantly think about footwear.  Think about the venue and where the ceremony will be held.  Lots of weddings are being held outdoors these days in not to conventional spots so your 4″ stilettos may not be the best choice.  If you don’t know about the location then definitely look it up or ask!

XO,

Tippy

 

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Who is panic wrapping??? Who is panic wrapping???
If it’s going to be 80 degrees for Christmas I’m a If it’s going to be 80 degrees for Christmas I’m asking Santa for a spray tan gift card in my stocking.
As my boys have gotten older there is almost alway As my boys have gotten older there is almost always a friend eating dinner at my house or spending the night. The weekends are reserved for a driveway full of bikes and basketball. This year, in my haste to make my @shutterfly card I accidentally added a picture with one of my bonus kids in it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ #themorethemerrier
You are not shadow banned. Your content is not bei You are not shadow banned. Your content is not being hidden. Most of the time, it simply is not resonating with your audience anymore, especially if you are using the app correctly, which I will explain at the end.

People blame “shadow banning” when they see a drop in engagement, but when I look at their metrics, I can usually see small declines long before they noticed them. Social media platforms have millions of users. They are not punishing you because you took a week off.

What actually happens is this. Your audience stopped engaging with your content, and when you took a break, they filled that space with other creators. When you returned, the algorithm showed them the accounts they interacted with most, which was not you. They were not looking for your content because it was not relevant to them anymore. I see this over and over.

There is one real caveat. How you are using the app. If you upload unlicensed music, follow and unfollow in large numbers, run giveaways that break platform rules or respond to comments in negative ways, you can hurt your reach. That is not a shadow ban. That is violating the service agreement.

A case study. Someone told me they was shadow banned. When I looked at their account, a few things stood out.

1. There was no aspirational layer to the content. It was a business that relied on people physically coming in, yet nothing showcased a luxury experience, or a story people could connect with. Photos were blurry, captions were minimal and there was no searchable language to help people discover her business.

2. There was no engagement back to the audience. Not responding to comments is one of the fastest ways to lose your community. People want acknowledgment. If they do not get it from you, they will give their attention to someone else.

3. They were not using the app like a real user.  Instagram and TikTok know you are a business, but they still reward accounts that behave like humans.  Comment, watch stories and sending DMs. That signals genuine activity and community building.

Most of the time the issue is not a shadow ban. It is content, connection and consistency. And the good news is all of that can be improved.
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Last Christmas, we took the Annual King Cookie Par Last Christmas, we took the Annual King Cookie Party in a whole new direction and it ended up being one of my favorite versions yet. I invited some of my closest friends to Kismet Cosmetics, decorated gingerbread houses, and made our own lip gloss and face glitter. It was such a fun way to reconnect with my friends during the busiest time of year. The full recap is on the blog now. Link in bio.
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